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The Art of Cunnilingus
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How to Eat Pussy GOD-I'M-SO-EXCITED-IT-FEELS-GREAT-BUT-I-JUST-CAN'T-CUM |
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It happens to all of us sometimes - distraction, embarrassment, anxiety, or just
an inability to "let go." What do you do about it? The first question is, can
she easily bring herself to a climax in the privacy of her own home. If the
answer is no - then she needs to do some homework. There are two books on the
subject that I know of: "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality" by
Lonnie Barbach, and "Sex for One: The Joy of Self-loving" by Betty Dodson; pick
up one. Then tell her to read it, study it, and practice, practice, practice! Now if your partner is orgasmic only when alone - ask her point blank: "Is there something different I can do?" Many women are shy about criticizing their lovers, but if asked outright will surprise you with a very specific answer. It may be a simple matter of mechanics, like a little to right, please, or not so rough, or more pressure and faster. Ah . . . perfect. But suppose everything is wonderful. She says you're doing everything right but she just can't cum. There are two probable causes: self-consciousness and/or self-loathing. For women who can't help watching themselves, the best approach is to eliminate anything that focuses her attention on what the two of you're doing. This is a "be here now" kind of thing - definitely not an introspective activity. Get that mirror off the ceiling. Dim the lights or turn them off completely. Put on some soft music. Share a glass of port. (I said A glass - getting drunk will definitely not help). Have her lie on her back, or propped up comfortably with some pillows. This isn't the time for her to sit on your face, or the edge of the bed, or stand up against a wall. Arrange a time when you can devote a long period to eating her pussy, and then just keep it up. Forget everything I said about asking her questions - just close your eyes and get into it. I know this can be a difficult and exhausting exercise, but she'll be extravagantly thankful for your efforts. It gets easier each time. If all else fails, get accustomed to masturbating together. Gradually begin to add your stimulation to her own, right before she's about to cum anyway. Over time, you can take over completely. For women who feel that their pussys are dirty or distasteful, all of the above methods may be helpful, but the underlying issue must also be addressed. I am amazed at how many women are ambivalent about their own genitals. They don't love "that part" of their body, and they can't believe that you would either. Yes, it's important to be clean. But clean means a daily shower which includes washing their pussy. It doesn't mean vainly attempting to remove every trace of smell or taste. The natural taste and fragrance of the fresh secretions from a healthy woman's pussy are beautiful and erotic. Hopefully you agree (and if not, try hard to cultivate this attitude). When she learns to love her pussy, she'll be infinitely more comfortable with your loving it too. |
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